Are there any unique challenges military personnel face when adjusting (or are forced to adjust to) civilian life? If so, what are some examples?
Definitely, it can be extremely difficult at times to transition to civilian life from the military.You aren't able to just tell people what to do and expect results. This usually applies more to guys who were in positions of power but this is one of my biggest issues. Retail workers, doctors, and pretty much any service related job is where this shows the most. I have always been of the idea that if I am paying for a service you should render it. Not being able to timely results is annoying as can be.Cursing; we all do it and I can't say “f**k” anymore whenever I want. People tend to look down on this and I catch myself sometimes ordering food, talking to people or even kids and I just curse. The way civilians say, “Uhh” is how we use “shit” and “f*ck”. They're just filler words now.The jokes; Yeah, our senses of humor don't match up with what is expected of real people. It's a George Carlin type humor, rife with swearing and nothing is off-limits. Nothing.The independence; at first it’s awesome and we all love it but then you realize the military won't be there to pick you up anymore.People don't move for you anymore. If a sergeant or above, even a salty LCpl, walks through a crowded hallway the sea parts for you. Everyone says “Good (Morning, Afternoon, Evening), ______.” It kind of sucks when you're not godlike anymore. Now you're just a person again and no one cares.Depending on your MOS finding a job can be more or less difficult. There's a reason people say it's a good thing that in the infantry they train you for homelessness. It's a bit of an exaggeration but unless you're a cop or contractor you really have to make your resume sound like you weren't an infantryman. Of course many of the skills apply but “I shot people in the face” doesn't have many private sector opportunities.There's less stability than the military. The military may work in chaos but it's a fairly orderly beast. Paychecks are (Usually) on time, things are nice and scheduled, and unless deployed you always know roughly what's coming up soon with some detail. There's always a place to stay as well.You've got to pay for everything. There's no clothing or housing allowance, it's all up to you to get it done.There's a lot more but there's a big one: The goddamned VA. I really get the feeling sometimes that the VA has been a bigger threat to my life than the Taliban ever hoped to be. It's the most unecessarily evil necessary evil organization I've ever worked and I've worked with a lot.VA:“Well we looked at your medical record and there's no evidence of flat feet when you signed up but there is later on in your record and physicals”Me:“So it's service connected then, right? Makes sense.”VA: “Yeah, no not service connected.”Me: “Do you people even read your own policies and guidelines or do you assign things at random? It doesn't take the world’s greatest detective to connect those dots.”This happened, seriously. They've improved a little bit under Obama and they've tightened up a little more since then but the VA is the bane of my existence. It combines all the things I don't like about civilians or civilian life into one place.Individually I'd say they run the range from angelic miracle workers to people so lazy, incompetent, and stupid that you wouldn't trust them to babysit an imaginary friend. The miracle workers aren't seen very often though.As a whole the claims and medical side needs to be straightened up and cleaned out.Tossing pills at the depressed and suicidal is not a solution.Lying about the number of appointment slots.Ignoring pleas of help from those in need, which included myself even.Many staff members that like the inflated paychecks they receive but not doing the work.Always saying, “well that's just the policy” and not seeing that you are, in fact, a fellow human and policy shouldn't matter.Being under criminal investigation for shortchanging claims.These people should be under investigation for manslaughter or murder in some cases though. Not even malpractice, I mean straight up start charging people and administrators with manslaughter. The quality of care in the VA will make other nations jealous of the US at that point.http://wncn.com/2017/03/06/veter...Man commits suicide at Phoenix VAThe suicide in Durham went unnoticed for several days. They claim they swept the parking lot everyday multiple times, a lie obviously. The man clearly needed help and cooperation from the VA, his blood is on their hands. All he wanted was for his claim to be handled and they killed him for it. He died because of them, there's no way to spin it.This isn't 1945 where there's sixteen million returning vets at the same time and it's all done by paper. There is NO reason for anything they do to take as long as it does now. Electricity and data move at nearly the speed of light, their timelines are skewed and artificially changed by themselves.Delay, deny, and hope you die. That is the real policy of the VA. This isn't to say there aren't good ones or that people are joining the VA because they're sadists, most probably do start out as idealistic and it goes away.But‡ if your idealism goes away in that line of work then find a different job.